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Acts of Kindness – The Forgotten

13 Aug
Random Thoughts of Kindness Barnstar

Random Thoughts of Kindness Barnstar (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

This is going to be a really quick one, as I let time slip away from me and I’m falling asleep at the wheel.  Well, keyboard to be precise.

These last few days I’ve been posting about Acts of Kindness.  Today I’d like to mention a sub-chapter of this that I haven’t really touched on so far.  Acts of Kindness toward ourselves.

Most of us speak to and treat ourselves worse than we would ever treat anyone else on the planet.  We deprive ourselves of sleep and good nutrition.  We talk to and about ourselves like we were the lowest of the low, usually holding ourselves to standards that would be unthinkable in regard to any other person on the planet.  We curse ourselves for not knowing things we couldn’t possibly have known, hold grudges against ourselves for things we couldn’t have possibly prevented or known the outcome of and eternally carry resentment for the slightest mistakes.

Today, I’d like to challenge you all to take a moment and commit an Act of Kindness toward yourself, with the true spirit of kindness.

Here’s a little list to get you started: Continue reading

Bring Random Acts of Kindness Home

12 Aug
The Great Kindness Challenge Logo

The Great Kindness Challenge Logo (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

We often forget that Random Acts of Kindness are not limited to strangers. While yes, it is always a good feeling (as the giver or recipient) for one stranger to help another, we should not forget that those we know are often the ones most in need of AoK from us, specifically.

The old saying ‘Familiarity breeds contempt’ is true in the fact that we often tend to take for granted those that are closest to us.  We come to expect to be treated a certain way, or have things done for us, or begin to forget to go the extra mile because we don’t need to ‘make nice’ to those who are around us all the time.

Sometimes it means the most to those we’ve personally neglected, or those who have always taken care of us.  These people can include our parents, our children, our spouses, and our closest friends.

A perfect example of this is the A.o.K. that my Love committed that I shared in this post.  If anyone else had done this for me, yes, I would have appreciated it.  I would have been grateful, said thank you, and had a smile on my face all day, but it wouldn’t have been able to compare to the joy and happiness I felt by that unexpected and yes, random, act of thoughtfulness coming from the man I adore.  Nothing could have compared. Continue reading

The Sentence For Committing Acts of Kindness? Good Karma

11 Aug
kindness lane

kindness lane (Photo credit: sensesmaybenumbed)

Kindness is one of the few things that rarely happen accidentally.  Being unintentionally nice to someone else just isn’t one of those things that occur.  Sure, sometimes you’re driving a little slow and some yahoo pulls out in front of you, then waves like you’ve just done him a favor, or you stop to give one last check down your grocery list and some woman dashes into the line you were aiming for then turns and says thank you but, in general, kindness is a deliberate, intentional act that we make a conscious effort to perform.

UN-kindness, on the other hand, is often performed unconsciously.  Many times we are rude, hurtful, and inconsiderate without even registering that it has occurred.  The woman walking into Macy’s in front of you didn’t deliberately shut the door in your face, it just didn’t occur to her to hold it open for you.  That guy on the freeway didn’t deliberately block you from merging into traffic, it never occurred to him to let you over in the first place.

So often, and I am guilty of this myself, we instantaneously assume that the other person is deliberately being inconsiderate but, more often than not, that’s not the case at all.  As technology has increased, so has our level of self-containment.  As everything around us speeds up, our ability to keep up has decreased, forcing our attention to the next appointment, the next errand, the next thing that has to get done, leaving little room in our thoughts for the here and now, which includes the people who are in that here and now with us.  We’ve stopped seeing people as neighbors, and started seeing them as obstacles, slowing us down in the sojourn from point A to point B. Continue reading

Restoring Faith In Humanity

11 Aug
Random Acts of Kindness

Random Acts of Kindness (Photo credit: Courtney Dirks)

I think that most of us, when we take a moment to contemplate it, consider ourselves good people.  With all of the terrible things happening around us every day, I think it’s easy to lose faith in humanity.  We forget that deep down, almost all of us like to do nice things for other people.  It makes us feel good- about ourselves and about each other.

Some of you may have read my post yesterday about my shock at discovering all the bad stuff about fluoride.  While I took it upon myself to make a post about it and to find a fluoride filtering water pitcher, I realized that although it was important to inform myself and try to keep others informed about things, there was no need for me to dwell on them.  Instead, I should be dwelling on good things, positive things that uplift me which will in turn uplift those around me.  So, to counteract yesterday’s negative post, today I am posting something positive. Continue reading

A Perfect World – It Starts With You

30 Jul
utopia-after-boom

utopia-after-boom (Photo credit: burningmax)

A perfect world.

I think most people have, at certain times in their lives, be that after indulging in some mind altering substances, or during upsetting events in our lives, consider either deeply or briefly, what a perfect world would be like.  Common thoughts on the subject are ‘In a perfect world, there would be no death’ or ‘In a perfect world, there would be no hunger’.  I’m feeling in a particularly philosophical mood today and would like to share my thoughts on the subject. Continue reading

A Good Man Is Hard To Find…

15 Jul
English: Peace, love and happyness award Franç...

(Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I lightly touched on some of the things that have been going on with me while I was away from writing, but I failed to mention the awesomeness that has been going on over here from my partner, my best friend, my lover… my soul mate.

Last week, he got off of work early.  He came home (unannounced) to surprise me, and surprise me he did.  He scared the shit out of me, lol.  I thought someone was trying to break into the house.  The door opens, and there he is- lunchbox in one hand, and half a dozen pink roses in the other.  He steps in, says, “I’m home, baby!” and holds up the flowers.  I launch myself toward him, wrap my arms around his neck, and promptly burst into tears.

It was the first time in my 33 years of life that a man has brought me flowers for no reason at all, and only the second time in my life a man has brought me flowers from an actual florist shop.  To say I was overwhelmed would be an understatement. Continue reading

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