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Bruised But Not Broken – A Survivor’s Tale

18 Aug
child abuse

child abuse (Photo credit: Southworth Sailor)

I am a survivor.

Bruised and scarred, but not broken, even though there are moments in which I feel I am.  I have survived abuse, in one form or another, since I was seven years old.  One abuser is dead (and burning in Hell, if there is a just god), another is still alive, in my life, and loved very much, because I am old enough now to understand.  I don’t have to approve of a thing to understand the motivation behind it.  I have forgiven, and life has moved on to happier, healthier times, because they have found it in themselves to change.  Another abuser is still alive (I assume) but completely out of my life, and although I haven’t been able to completely forgive, I’ve shed most of my anger and feel mostly pity and sorrow.  I count that as a win, too.

I am here to tell anyone who will listen or who needs to hear, that there IS life after abuse.  No, the memories will never go away.  The nasty little voice in your head will never be completely silenced, but there is life, and it can be a very, very good life. Continue reading

85 Year-Old Woman Abused

14 Jul
Mrs.O on her 85th birthday.  2013.

Mrs.O on her 85th birthday. 2013.

Today’s post is a serious one.  Abuse in any form is disgusting and despicable, but especially so when it occurs against those who are unable to defend themselves- children, animals and the elderly.  For those of you who think nursing homes are the only places elderly abuse takes place, please, read on and discover how erroneous that line of thinking is.

I’d like to introduce you to Mrs. O.  She’s an 85-year-old woman who is bedridden, weighs less than 100 lbs, suffers from short-term memory loss and mostly blind due to stroke, and has no teeth.  She has lived with her son and his wife for the last nine years.  As a young woman, she married a man twenty years her senior who already had four children, and gave birth to four children of her own during their marriage.  Her husband passed away in the eighties, and from that point she lived on her own until health issues required that she move in with her son after in-home care was no longer an option.  For the first 7 1/2 years, she was under the sole care of her daughter-in-law until a fall resulting in a broken hip led to declining health, eventually leading to her becoming bedridden.  At this point the family felt that her care was too much for her DIL (daughter-in-law) to handle alone, so they called in a local in-home care company to provide care for her during the day and assist with things like feeding and bathing, changing linens, etc.  The family didn’t want to subject her to a nursing home where she would be surrounded by strangers, and they felt she was safer having her cared for in their home instead of at a facility where they couldn’t monitor her care.  Continue reading

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